Allison Baker wrote:I wont comment on BDSM, we do the BD but tend to shy away from SM.
It's not a one-or-the-other thing. BDSM is a catch-all phrase. It's supposed to cover Bondage/Discipline, Domination/Submission, and Sadism/Masochism. But you don't have to be into all of them to be into parts of them.
The term BDSM is believed to have been coined as a compound initialism in the 1990s to combine communities and practices that had a significant amount of crossover – bondage and discipline (B&D or B/D), dominance and submission (D&S or D/s), and sadomasochism or sadism and masochism (S&M or S/M). BDSM is currently frequently used as a catch-all phrase to includes a wide range of activities, forms of interpersonal relationships, and distinct subcultures which may or may not fit well into the original three intended categories. With an ethos of "your kink is OK!" many BDSM communities welcome anyone with a non-normative streak who identifies with the community; this may include cross-dressers, extreme body mod enthusiasts, animal players, latex or rubber aficionados, and others.