Where did I insult you, Escapee? Mind my sarcasm? Well, I didn't mind your little lecturing in your previous post, after all...
There are numerous quotes and situations where FW are not sequestred by their families and independent, even running their own business, often having no companion, and in this matter, able to chose one. More you progress in your reading of books, more it's evident.
I never said that FW were not at risk. They are, and in books, they do take risks, sometimes, pay consequences. But unlike in SL Gor, they are not so easily collared. Certainly not just because they receive a man in their home. I was not speaking of a FW who would receive a man while she is taking her bath.... There is a difference between a FW who receives a man at her home because she has some business to deal with him, and a FW trying to entice a man, being loosely veiled, displaying an ankle, or a bared wrist (the way FW tend to flirt or just provoke men, like the Lady Ina in Vagabonds with the men of her escort).
In fact, books state that when a FW expresses some slave behavior, it takes repetitive offenses before she gets enslaved. She is said "courting the collar", if the slave-like behavior is continued. By slave-like behavior, we speak of a woman expressing true yearning desires of lust as well as a submissive behavior, one which is expected from slaves. By slave-like behavior, you have too, the fact for a FW to wear a piece of slave silks, to adorn herself with a slave beads necklace, even in the privacy of her compartments, if caught. Some other behaviors are considered slave-like, as for example, FW entering into a paga den (disguised or not), or spying on masters and slaves. And a FW -may- be made a slave. Also, the standards of decorum are a factor which is usually decisive as a cause of enslavement (woman baring her legs, arms...)
But in any case, such behavior must be overt (and psychological dispositions don't count much, a FW must be openly expressive for her behavior constitutes a cause of collar).
Difficult for me to associate slave-like behavior, so, with a FW just receiving a man in her house with no relative of her being present. So what? She has maybe a business to conduct with him, maybe does he meet her for a proposition of companionship and she wants to consider the matter in talking with him (the kind of thing which is better done in the privacy than in an open area....) As I said, not all FW are under the control and authority of a male relative. Many are fully independent.
Before I read Fighting slave, long ago, I was convinced that FW were just frigid bitches. In Fighting slave, you discover another aspect of the FW, that she does have a sexuality if she wishes (though far different than the sexuality of a slave girl and which doesn't much relieve her from her frustrations), that she can have a business and run it. Then, in books like Mercenaries, Renegades, Vagabonds, Magicians, Witness, you discover many other aspects of this character and it becomes difficult to just keep the stereotype of the frigid bitch who is under her male relative control. Not that this FW doesn't exist, she exists. Many FW, especially young uncompanioned ones and of high caste, are closely sequestred. But many other more mature, have full control upon their life and even some sexuality (not making her a hot slut in robes). In fact, FW tend to pride themselves in their capacity not to yield. Slaves do yield, FW don't.
The only thing on which Norman is rather consistent is the point regarding the feelings of FW toward slave girls.
Regarding the liberties granted by some cities, though my reading of books is not so recent (and I have yet to read the books about Red Savages, + some of the last ones, (except Prize, Conspirators and Smugglers I read last year), I remember these rules were more about factors of decorum and some very explicit slave-like behavior (as those I listed above). Some cities don't make it a law, other do. Not to mention the "Counching law" which is specific to Ar. But perhaps some more specific quotes may have slipped my memory. But I don't remember of a law, a quote where a FW cannot receive whom she would like to meet in her house because it's a male not of her relatives.
The problem with this kind of IC law is that it makes your character face consequences for something which is not supported in books. And in the same time, in some of these cities, you will commonly meet FW with loose hair or ponytail, or who commonly bear their face as if it was the common fashion in a Southern city and who are never bothered. Non sense.