I think this is very situation dependent. If you really click with a person and the rp flows and is fantastic, then inspiration should go both ways. It should Never be about the man needing to inspire the slave constantly, or vice versa. Your slave should be an rp partner if anything. Someone who can enhance and better your storyline. They are as much of an rper behind the screen as you are and honestly this is a "do to others what you would want done to you" type of deal. No slaves goes into a Master/slave relationship with the "Yay, I get to be used, raped, abused, and tomorrow I get to be thrown away to start all over again!". Would it be realistic in a gorean sense...sure...would it be asshattish in a "we are all rpers looking for a good storyline, not a one night stand" way...yes.
I preferred it when the dude made his intentions clear from the get go. When Snow and Crow caped me in Laura to use me to get information from them...I knew the deal going in. I knew I was being used and was eventually going to be tossed...so I was able to enjoy the rp without any expectations, or delusions of grandure...afterall, if I find a totally awesome rper then I want to hang around them, be a part of their stories. To get a taste and then get kicked to the curb is like being given the best drug on the planet with the possible promise for more...then being told, "sorry you aren't interesting enough to get anymore..."
Think of it this way. You meet a slave girl, she is independent, an amazing rper, everyone wants her, and her pixels are smokin hot. She is to be sold from a slaver house and you want her so you rp with her to get close to her and it is the best rp, intense and passionate, and interesting..then one day she gets sold to another man. When you go to her and tell her "I wanted to collar you...what happened?" wouldn't it just suck if she said "Oh I was just using you to get close to your friend, I never actually wanted you..your not my type".
Again...If this was gor you could do what you want and not give a fuck and slaves would go on, but this is sl roleplay gor, not real gor and I think there should be some respect given to the rpers behind the screen, both from a frees standpoint and a slaves.
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