Well it seemed like a complaint about 2 things. One being para roleplay - or rather the requirement for it - and the other lack of combat.
As for the first - I have a pick on most of my AVs that goes along the lines of:
RP - I emote long, mostly. I can and will try to shorten it, but shotgun oneliner roleplay intimidates me and ceases any fun I may be having in the game. It's not about being elitist, it's about being unable to adapt adequately to very very short emoting. Apologies.
And that's pretty much how I feel about it. If someone comes up to me and fires post after post after post at me, with zero narrative, then 1: I get intimidated by the speed of it and my inability to keep up, and 2: I don't consider it to be RP. It's just chat. It's not fun for me. Give me a structured sentence with a little narrative and wait your turn and we'll have fun. Requiring paragraph RP as a premise to engaging with someone is a little silly though. I'll still play with people who fire one word after another at me - as long as they don't metagame/godmode - but chances are I'll be looking for a fast out. Different strokes for different folks I guess.
No doubt there will be a string of entirely unecessary "para" v "oneline" posts here. Personally, I don't really care if you're interested in the descriptions I write... because here's the thing: If you don't like how I play, you can move along to the next person, whose style you might like. People are so busy defending their own style these days they seem to forget that there's a very high chance that if you don't like the RP of the person you're playing with - chances are they don't like yours, either.
Every now and then - usually when I've been roleplaying for a couple of months too many without taking the obligatory couple-months-break - I get impatient, intolerant and judgemental. Then it dawns on me that it's just a game, that there's no point standing about with someone whose rp you don't enjoy, locked at the antlers trying to prove who is having their fun spoiled most, when you could just be doing something... fun... and separating ways with a friendly gesture and some best wishes. None of us hold a monopoly on fun. No one way of roleplaying is right. Some people you will enjoy playing with, and others you won't. BUT THAT'S OK!
As for the combat thing, I don't think enough RP comes from it. And it definitely could. If people went on their raids and roleplayed out consequences and future conflict beyond return-raids and cap/collar/rape/release then raiding would (and should IMO) be more popular (I know some places definitely do this already). I'm not saying every day, but maybe once a week. Thing is, saying raids didn't happen once a week is pointless. Seeing as babies aren't born in a week either. I'm not sure anyone sticks rigidly to realtime in RP... do they?
"3 men shouldn't be attacking a well defended city" - well if there's nobody in that city bar a couple of guards I presume those defending so well it are being NPC'd - like... the rest of the army that's stampeding along behind the three?
Then again, I always did enjoy roleplaying at home with the people that live there. It's nice to have relationships and friendships and reasons why you would want to defend the people of your home I guess. Maybe try that?