Qingwen wrote:Cassie wrote:You know what is scary? Playing a slave character with a guy and letting him play a dominant role and then have an im pushing to OOC this shit. Makes you just want to tip toe around a person before you RP freely doesn't it?
Thing is, these OOC crossover people are not always obnoxious jerks one can spot a mile away - they could be really nice and great roleplayers in all other respects. Then suddenly there is that awkward moment... why o why...
SL has always had this lingering aroma of match.com about it, I suppose I just hoped I'd meet more like-minded people in roleplay sims where we are obviously.. roleplaying.
I wandered off topic. Back to your regularly scheduled programme...
Now hold up one moment, this is a subject that i think is part of a thread titles 'Hey Men!" lol.
The way i look at it is this. Single people sometimes want to meet other single people and do single people things. Also a lot of people who are on SL are having a hard time coping with life for one reason or another and want to make a connection. I don't think this is inherently bad and i do not think its ok to shame them just because someone might be a little lonely in real.
Problem comes in with how they approach such a thing. if someone has in their profile 'I DON'T WANT TO TALK TO YOU OOCLY' and they do it anyway, well then bam they are at fault. But if you don't have any of those disclaimers in your profile and someone tries to chat you up ooc, then you can politely decline to have that discussion. if it ends there and everyone maintains mutual respect for eachother, boom win win. No reason to get angry at them for it. Now if a guy is coming off as creepy or desperate, then you can do what you need to do in order to get out of that situation. I know there are a'lot of truly damaged people in SL who will turn into psycho stalkers and its a serious problem for women. But don't punish the guy who's being respectful to you and nice just because he wanted to make friends or maybe hoping to meet someone, its not wrong to have that view, its wrong when that view becomes hostile and pushy or creepy.