Let me argue my position (that the fem. weakness should be more significant but not 500% or more) using 2 examples.
Example 1: FW Nara finds herself blackmailed by merchant Nodo, who is demanding things from her. She hired an assassin, but Nodo anticipated that, and hired an assassin of his own to assassinate any assassin she might hire, which that assassin did. Nara fears that Nodo will keep on blackmailing her until she has nothing left and ends up enslaved. But what he is blackmailing her with IS pretty bad. It cannot come out, or she will be in even worse trouble. He has a letter by her hand that will condemn her. She tried stealing it as well, but that didn't work because he always carries it on his person.
One day, Nodo once again approaches her for a new round of threats and blackmailing. She decides to try and ambush him herself. She agrees to meet him in an alley near the docks, planning to ambush him.
Now, let's assume that the meter is used to play the ambush out, not text combat. What would be a good 'gender difference' for this scenario? Say, she jumps him, with her dagger, (assuming he doesn't use radar/camera panning to 'see' her ambush OR, if he does, assuming he doesn't metagame/use this OOC info), and starts wacking at him. He has a sword at his side. She will have an advantage, if she can surprise him. If she does, she will have a chance. Not a good chance, but a chance (and she is desperate). If he isn't quick to draw his sword, she can down him, giving her a chance to kill him, or at least take the incriminating letter from him. If he does draw his weapon and engages in combat in time, she would have a small chance with the meter having no female male difference (but she might still be able to run away). If there is a significant male female difference (like, say 60%), she would have a very slim chance (and she might be able to flee). If the difference is 500% or more, she would be down the moment he engages her, pretty much (no chance to flee at all, no chance to win, even if she is awesome in terms of melee skills and he is pretty bad).
I would say that, if you WANT a major advantage for Merchant Nodo (which would make sense to me given the books), but still want to give her a chance (which would make sense to me too), the 60% or something range would be best for this scenario.
Example 2: Two men go panther hunting in the forests. They hunt down a panther girl named Nikoka. One of her band, Nikoke, comes to her aid, as they tie that panther girl up and talk about how they will enslave her and sell her in city X. Nikoke doesn't dare engage those two men, as she is outnumbered, but she does want to help Nikoka. She follows them to a city.
The men have brought Nikoka to the city. Nikoke waits. After some sneaking, under cover of darkness, she finds an apparently unguarded part of the wall, and uses a rope and grapple to climb it. She sneaks through the streets and over the walls (let's assume that there are no metagaming map-using and camming guards), and she manages to find Nikoka, in a bamboo cage at the back of an inn. She can hear the men drinking and talking in the inn, along with other voices. She goes to free Nikoke, using her dagger to saw through some of the ropes holding the bamboo bars in place. After a little while, she creates a hole large enough for Nikoka to slip through. But as they are out, one of the men happens to walk behind the inn to relieve himself. He sees them, and readies his bow.
Now, what would be realistic? Nikoke, (assuming she has a bow, and why not) and him engaging in combat and her maybe besting him, and maybe besting his friend and a city guard as well, and both fleeing? BTB-wise... not too realistic. But not unlikely, with equal meter settings, given that she is a panther girl, and in SL gor, that probably means that she is better at fighting than the men are. The man having a 500% or more advantage, which will probably mean him very quickly downing both panther girls? Or a more moderate but clear advantage for the man, making it nearly suicidal for Nikoke to engage him in a fight, she hopes to win, but perhaps possible for her to engage him in a fight that might give Nikoka a chance to run off, maybe make her way out, and that might give herself a chance to flee and escape the city as well? I think that would be the most BTB realistic (and most interesting, RP-wise) situation.
This is why I think that equal (or near equal) meters (male female) aren't right for BTB gor, but why I think that differences of 500% or more are not desirable either. Might as well have an 'auto' loss rule for women if you do that (something I proposed some time ago, which nearly everyone here didn't like).
I think that a difference in the range of 50%-75% makes sense, in light of the books. The books make it clear that if a man and woman of more or less equal skill were to engage each other in straight-forward, open combat (like Tarna/Tarl), the woman would pretty much always lose. With a 15% difference, that won't be the case with metered combat (if she was slightly more skilled or a bit lucky). With, say, 60%, that would be the case. The female would nearly always lose, unless the man was quite unskilled with meter combat (which makes sense... Tarna WAS skilled. She would have defeated a man that lacked skill. Clearly, her self-confidence was based on having defeated such men before).
A difference of 500% or more makes little sense to me. Would it really take 5 panther girls with spears to be a match for one man with a spear? To me, it would make sense that a man would avoid a fight in which he faced 2 panther girls at once, if he had no additional advantage.
That's my argument. Some minor points:
I voted none, for this reason alone: all a woman has to do (and the panther sluts do it all the time) and select MALE when setting-up their meter.
What Horizon said. As far as I know, male settings will yield male 'ows and aws' on the GM, which are an immediate give-away of a 'male setting'. Just a matter of turning your sound on (which you want to do in a fight anyway).
I voted for the 2000% hit have women fall to the splash of an arrow. And my reasoning is that unless you give some people an automatic win they cry and cry.
This is why I mistrust some of those 'high percentage' votes. To me, your reason for picking that option seem more like a 'protest' vote about something else, rather than a considered vote based on the male-female difference you would like to see.