I think it's up for interpretation. As far as I can tell, there is nothing explicit in the rules that say "No gay characters"
From what I was told by the person banned, they never even had a chance to roleplay, they were banned purely upon their visual appearance, as a feminine-ish looking male, and probably their profile which includes gay groups. At least two of their characters were banned.
I'm outing myself finally, but here's the IM I exchanged with Mel, and I hope everyone draws their own conclusions. I can only speak for myself.
Yes, I am bi IRL (even if I choose to play straight or gay in SL), so I admit, I am taking this rather personally.
[11:21] Maya (lacey.coronet): He said he's been to Hesius with no issues previously.
[11:23] Melisande Moisant: I did ban this avatar. I remember the profile. I'm trying to remember why.
[11:24] Melisande Moisant: Maybe the appearance of the avatar was not BtB.
[11:24] Melisande Moisant: I don't remember, frankly.
[11:24] Melisande Moisant: In our early days, we had so many that were just inappropriate.
[11:24] Melisande Moisant: Ah!
[11:24] Melisande Moisant: We aren't doing the male homosexual or bisexual male slave here.
[11:24] Melisande Moisant: Just a sim preference.
[11:25] Maya (lacey.coronet): Ahh, alright. Thanks for clearing that up. I'm sure he just didn't know.
[11:25] Melisande Moisant: I'm surprised I didn't tell him though? lol.
[11:25] Melisande Moisant: I usually ALWAYS say something if I ban someone.
[11:25] Melisande Moisant: Perhaps he just missed it.
[11:25] Melisande Moisant: This was very early, like week 1?
[11:25] Melisande Moisant: maybe week 2.
[11:26] Maya (lacey.coronet): Might have! Glad we cleared it up though. Thank you for your time!
[11:26] Melisande Moisant: You're welcome
[11:55] Maya (lacey.coronet): In the interest of being adult and fair here, I feel I should let you know that I'm going to add in that homosexual characters aren't allowed in my review of the sim. Personally, it saddens me and upsets me, but I also understand that others prefer it, and I don't pretend that my view is what everyone wants. I just wanted you to be aware. I don't hate anyone, or you.
[14:36] Melisande Moisant: You should read the article entitled "Simplicity" on our blog website to better understand why we are staying away from that role in the sim. And it is not that they are not allowed. It is not that they are openly allowed. And of course, we love homosexual roleplayers. It is just that the character of the homosexual or bisexual in Gor is such a very special snowflake character, that in our rules, as they state since the first day, we are asking people try to keep to traditional roles of Gor here in the sim for the overall feel of the BtB Gorean environment. I think you have a responsibility, if you're going to do a review, to also include that information.
[14:38] Maya (lacey.coronet): I disagree. While I understand it's a touchy subject given the genre of the roleplay, the way it was handled told me all I need to know. You didn't ban just that character. You banned all of his characters. Characters that have never been on sim. That action alone tells me it's based in homophobia, and not keeping within a genre. Again, it isn't my business what other people do, but I as an advocate in all worlds, cannot condone something that so very very very clearly will cause (and has caused) someone RL pain.
[14:40] Melisande Moisant: I only banned the one character actually. That's it. I never have banned "all" of anyone's characters, unless they kept bringing the same type of disallowed character here. I have never known someone well enough to ban al their alts, and them too. I did not even remember him, wasn't given his name, or a list. All I can think that happened is that he continued to bring that type of character here on other avatars.
[14:41] Maya (lacey.coronet): He said even brand new characters were banned. If they are estate banned, however, that bans them VIA IP, rather than account, and would explain it. Again though, it is against my personal belief that it has anything to do with snowflake, and everything to do with homophobia. It doesn't mean I hate anyone, quite the opposite. I'm of the opinion that you should meet hate with love, and this is included in that.
[14:41] Maya (lacey.coronet): it is in* not against.
[14:42] Melisande Moisant: And, of course, you're going on his word. He says he has 2 avatars, and the two are banned. If he brought both avatars and they were both of a femme boy, then he might have been banned on both avatars. And it is very hard for me to believe that I have not spoken up to either of these avatars to tell them that that is a choice we aren't doing here in BtB Gor. We do not ever ban via IP here. I do not even know how to do it. And I'm sorry you feel that way, really. That is not happening here.
[14:43] Melisande Moisant: It's against the terms of service to IP ban. We would never do that here, and we do not have the capabilities. I wish we certainly could. There are a few griefers I'd like to get rid of that would make life much easier for myself and the mods if we could do this.
[14:45] Maya (lacey.coronet): Hah, that's the truth. Even if it's not an IP ban situation, the situation remains. While I completely understand that homosexuality doesn't quite fit in with the genre, you are in essence, asking a vast majority of people to RP things out that they are uncomfortable with. You wouldn't force a "normal" slave character to RP out sex all the time, would you? We allow things like fading to black for those reasons, because things like rape, etc, can sometimes be uncomfortable. It's accepted now, and understood.
[14:45] Maya (lacey.coronet): The same holds true for people who choose to play homosexual characters. They are often, homosexual IRL. You're asking them to either play things that are really uncomfortable for them, or not at all, and I feel like that's wrong.
[14:48] Melisande Moisant: No of course not - they should roleplay out sex and rape. Those are very Gorean things. Homosexual sex and rape and behavior is not really part of the genre here. It's a genre issue, not the issue of bigotry. It is about the feel of what makes an environment Gorean. We have also asked for other special characters not to be allowed. And I'm not asking that of them at all. there are people who are transgendered who come to SL and people who have a wheelchair because of their disability who come to SL. And there are people who live with hearing loss who come to SL. These are also things you would not see in Gor. The science of medicine is beyond it. People are deal with being elderly in real life - we ask that they not play that here. Because in Gor, we had the serums. This is not bigotry. It is the genre. He simply eliminated things. There are also people who have children in real life, and they like to come here to SL to play having a family, or having kids, and they want those kids to be
[14:48] Melisande Moisant: played out. That is wonderful! We ask that it not be part of the BtB Gor sim in Porto f Hesius.
[14:51] Maya (lacey.coronet): I understand what you're saying, but I feel it's just a matter of me not agreeing. Nothing wrong with that, and perhaps Hesius is good because it provides that place that no one else does. It's not for me personally, nor will it ever be given the rule, but that doesn't mean I hate anyone. It just won't ever be my home
Basically it comes down to what I said. I don't agree with banning. Anyone and everyone is welcome to mute or just not RP with something they disagree with, but banning has a basis in bigotry, no matter how you phrase it, in my opinion.
To each their own, but my own says no. I can't condone this. I honestly feel it's a thinly veiled attempt at being bigoted through "genre" rules, since it ends in a ban rather than telling people to just not RP it.