~pancake~ wrote:Here's the thing, there ARE some opinionated assholes here. I can think of a few, and I'm sure more than a few think that of me. There certainly are days I'm sure where people could read here and not only feel unwelcome here, but feel unwelcome in SL Gor. On any given day there is likely at least one post on the active topics or popular topics list that is about someone doing it wrong. However, there IS a lot more to this forum I think, somedays anyway, but pretending that isn't also here is denial really. If you don't see any opinionated assholes here... well...
It is easy to ignore some posters when they whine about how mean Gorums is and how it is ruining the gorean experience but when I hear this from others I do wonder where this comes from.
Does Gorums or any other forum have the power to ruin your gorean experience? Does it lesson your enjoyment of the genre?
Lets Debate it.
I'll raise my hand as being an opinionated asshole on any given day because frankly a debate forum is about expressing an opinion. Some will sugar coat it or couch it in pillowed language or just go along with the crowd rather than rock the boat. Others will dig in and genuinely enjoy the back and forth of intelligent nuanced debate. It takes all kinds to create a forum. Where I really just shake my head in utter confusion is when someone implies that someone on a forum saying "you are doing it wrong" is ruining anyones experience. That tells me the following three things:
1) You are not strong enough your own convictions about RP to establish your own "right"
2) You care too much about what other people think to the point that it outweighs your own enjoyment
3) WFT is the separation of IC and OOC that everyone brags so much about. This is a debate forum where the smallest minutia will be examined but it is not representative of the experience you might find if you encountered most posters. Base your RP experience on...wait for it...RP.
As for how this effects newcomers I doubt many find their way to the forum. I know people in SL Gor after many years who still don't know they exist. For those that do lurk/read or dive in and participate I hope they look for sources of information about Gor in other places other than a debate forum starting with the books, speaking with an experienced player willing to help or simply diving into RP. All of the above will provide more relevant information than anything that can be found here although some threads are pretty good.